I just recently read an article in the Times which stated that even today Indians like to get married in the same community. Not one of the biggest secrets in the world but it is true, even in today’s modern world Indians still see an inter cast marriages as a taboo.
WHY SO? Tradition Culture… Our families are still of the belief that only same religion marriages are successful and inter cast marriages fail miserably… Though true in certain cases the recent increase in the Divorce cases makes a whole new point coz not only Love Marriages but also arrange marriages which has been included in these numbers. Earlier Family and Community pressure forced people to live together but now even the family supports a divorce if the couples are not gelling in together…. So stating that arrange marriages are better is a thing of the past.
In today’s open world people interact with each other and this interaction leads them to find someone who they feel they can live their lives with so what’s wrong in that??
People argue that you have to make lots of adjustments in an inter caste marriage… The truth is marriage be it arrange or love itself is a big adjustment…. It not only brings in two people together but actually joins two different lifestyles together and when two separate lifestyles come together conflicts are bound to happen at this time it depends on the husband and the wife to decide how they overcome it…. Your husband and wife you should be able to share with them whatever is in your heart, also the main thing here is shouting at the top of your voice is not the way…. Talking can resolve any problem in the world no matter how big it is…
But having said that it is also necessary that you are sure that you want to be with that person before you take the massive step…. Only when you’re SURE that you want to be with that person do you take the step ahead….. Your family will always advice you against it whats necessary is that if you know you will be happy with that person and you do not change your stance every time your family tries to convince against it….. Even the other person is human and will start having doubts as well…. Which is when the problems start …frustrations creep in…. fighting’s start and we all know how it ends…. Break ups… crying…. Sadness and that’s when the GREAT FAMILY comes in and gives the dialogues “WE TOLD YOU SO”….. Little do they realize that their child has lost a person who would have made them HAPPY and would have allowed them to have a beautiful life and not a life full of adjustments……
LIVE…. LOVE ….. STAY FIRM .... \nm/
