Life in terms of a Footballer

“Life is a game of Football”

How can you say that? How can you compare football with life? How can a simple game as termed by many (football haters ;-) ) “just a game where the ball is kicked” be something as important as life…. HOW??

For me football is a the time when I feel I own my life what I do during that time is all in my hand and no one else can change it.

I have my friends on the pitch who will help me no matter what I have obstructions on the pitch and I have to find a way to get through them. I want to grasp the ball as it’s my Loved one  You get both feelings on the pitch “The joy of scoring  the goal and the sorrow of conceding one”. You may be a hero in a moment and a zero in another, but no matter what happens you still go on and on cause you know the game is not over till the final whistle is blown.

All this just sounds like life doesn’t it. You always want to take control of your life. You want to grasp your loved ones close to you so that you don’t lose them. You want to succeed and celebrate your success. But when success doesn’t come you are sad. but you don’t stop because you know you that you have to move on and you cannot stop life till the final whistle is blown. So you get up clear of the dirt and start running.

It’s easy to think bad and lose hope when you are in pain but always remember that match of life is just for 90 minutes and the time passes every second. So play hard and give it all so when the final whistle is blown you look back and say…  Hey I played a great game.

Live… Play… Win J

What do you want LOVE or ARRANGE?

I just recently read an article in the Times which stated that even today Indians like to get married in the same community. Not one of the biggest secrets in the world but it is true, even in today’s modern world Indians still see an inter cast marriages as a taboo.

WHY SO? Tradition Culture… Our families are still of the belief that only same religion marriages are successful and inter cast marriages fail miserably… Though true in certain cases the recent increase in the Divorce cases makes a whole new point coz not only Love Marriages but also arrange marriages which has been included in these numbers. Earlier Family and Community pressure forced people to live together but now even the family supports a divorce if the couples are not gelling in together…. So stating that arrange marriages are better is a thing of the past.

In today’s open world people interact with each other and this interaction leads them to find someone who they feel they can live their lives with so what’s wrong in that??

People argue that you have to make lots of adjustments in an inter caste marriage… The truth is marriage be it arrange or love itself is a big adjustment…. It not only brings in two people together but actually joins two different lifestyles together and when two separate lifestyles come together conflicts are bound to happen at this time it depends on the husband and the wife to decide how they overcome it…. Your husband and wife you should be able to share with them whatever is in your heart, also the main thing here is shouting at the top of your voice is not the way…. Talking can resolve any problem in the world no matter how big it is…

But having said that it is also necessary that you are sure that you want to be with that person before you take the massive step…. Only when you’re SURE that you want to be with that person do you take the step ahead….. Your family will always advice you against it whats necessary is that if you know you will be happy with that person and you do not change your stance every time your family tries to convince against it….. Even the other person is human and will start having doubts as well…. Which is when the problems start …frustrations creep in…. fighting’s start and we all know how it ends…. Break ups… crying…. Sadness and that’s when the GREAT FAMILY comes in and gives the dialogues “WE TOLD YOU SO”….. Little do they realize that their child has lost a person who would have made them HAPPY and would have allowed them to have a beautiful life and not a life full of adjustments……

 LIVE…. LOVE ….. STAY FIRM .... \nm/

Junk Memories…

My House just went under renovation and took out some old stuff that had accumulated in the house. Never ever understood why we kept all of them just utilizing the place and nothing else….

But going through it I realized that these were really worth it….. Not that I received thousand bucks after selling them…. But these were really worth emotionally…

While removing them I found an old oven which Mum used to make me cakes well it was only two or three times but when I saw it being broken to pieces I felt real pain quite natural thinking of all the hard work Mum used to go through to make those cakes for me for a moment the taste just came back to me as if the oven was saying remember it I was the one who gave you that taste a last way of saying goodbye I suppose…

Of the old stuffs there were some comic books which I used to read when I was small I don’t know I think some of them were also used by my cousins before me as well…. Some old Greeting Cards from I suppose when I was like ten or something surely my collection was worth for an antique collector but they must now be under recycling which is much better I suppose…

It’s not only me I suppose everybody saves these kind of things and though when you see them you feel that it is junk but when you just spent a minute to look at them you realize that all this is a part of your life every single thing has a special moment attached to it a moment of joy of happiness and that’s when I realized this is the exactly why you keep them so that when you look at them years latter you remember of the wonder full times and at least for a minute or two just forget about the hardships of life and take a walk back the memory lane.

Though these things are usually thrown away they do their work of bringing back the lovely memories the ones that may never come back but will always be remembered when you think of the amount of junk it created and even though we will have anger on our face some where in the heart we will still be happy because it will bring back all the memories we left behind …..

Holiday from the World!!!!!!!!!

Finally I got my own blog, it had been on my mind from quite sometime now and finally I got it.

Felt great but the main question rises now? What should I write?? My blog…. my first post…. it should be something nice…. it should be something that everybody will like… what should I write? How should I put my words?

That’s when I questioned myself why is it that every time we want to do something we think of others?

Family... friends… neighbor’s our life has just got so restricted…

Just ask yourself a question? When was the last time you did something for yourself, just for yourself…. not for your family…. not for your friends….. but just yourself.

The “ME” word comes to mind and with it the word selfish tags along…… but why cant we think of ourselves why cant we be selfish for just one day. A day out of 365 days I think we can afford it…

So here is what I want you to do take a day for yourself just you and nobody else.

On this day you don’t think of anybody just go ahead and do whatever you want go shopping, watch a movie all alone, visit a spa, even  just sleep for the whole day but do it for yourself lets be super selfish for a day.

Let’s take a holiday from the world.

Try it and let me know how you feel, I am sure it will be worth an experience… J